Be gentle with yourself.

We want to encourage you to know that ‘you are normal’.

This heart-wrenching grief for your loved one is a temporary experience. Though the present is painful, grief allows you to bridge the past into the future allowing you an essential period to honour and respect all you have shared. 

Though challenging, the unpleasant aspects of grief are normal and will pass; but that love you have known will remain with you always. 

Because of the  love you have known, you will find your new strength and it will be founded the love you have shared in your relationship and equip you with enough love and strength to go on. 

So, for now ...

• be patient with yourself

• be inwardly confident you will feel better in time

• don’t expect to be a superhero - you are simply a human being and loss has to be processed gradually and within your own systematic pathway. Grief will not and cannot be hurried

• accept the help offered to you by friends or family - don't be ashamed to allow yourself to be vulnerable

• don't be afraid to tell them when you need space to just 'be'

• be honest with yourself and to your supporters

• be still and take time to exist with all that is around you in nature knowing you are part of something uniquely wonderful and everlasting

• embrace fresh air and the peace and tranquility of nature wherever you can

• take a little exercise - it really does help

• accept that though the physical has passed, the spiritual essences of a beautiful love are eternal and go on as you go on

• become tea-total for a while as alcohol delays interferes with our grieving and we need to allow ourselves the time to grieve to honour our loved ones.

Click the subpage in the box at the top for 'No one understands' to explolre further. You may have your own ideas of activities to add to these, but we share with you what we have experienced in our times. We are all different, but these ideas above are common in each of our experiences of different relationships and cirucumstances in grievf shared.